A few days ago, I realized I was getting married in exactly 2 months, so I snapped this gem:
(I'd also just done my nails, so it was an excellent chance to show off this new fall gel color.)
In exactly 55 days (according to the Knot), I'll be getting married.
So dear readers, welcome to the final count down.
It's seems as if everything is falling into place and I'm not really stressing (which is the goal). This long engagement (a year and a half) thing is the way to go! I haven't felt pressured or stressed to make any quick decisions.
Without further ado, wedding updates:
I'm doing my second hair trial today. I'm 95% sure I know the style I want to go with (full updo) to go with my dress (strapless sweetheart neckline), but I'm having my stylist try a long curly style today just to be sure.
I vetoed a veil (it was like an itchy mosquito net), but am having a sparkling headband instead.
We've paid the deposit (which was half of the cost) and finalized everything. I'm having my bouquet and a toss bouquet because I want to keep my flowers (and craft something with them). My mom is getting a wrist corsage, whereas his mom and grandma wanted pin on ones. The corsages will match, but not be identical which is fine by me. I don't want a pin on to ruin my mom's dress!
The groomsmen, ushers, ring bearer, and his dad are all getting boutonnieres. The center pieces will be low (so people can still talk at the tables) and there will be balls of hydrangeas lining the aisle.
Flowers weren't super high on my priorities list, so we went with what was in season to lessen the cost. We also kept it to roses and hydrangeas (with touches of baby's breath) to minimize costs. I wanted an elegant, traditional look with our flowers without being ridiculous (cough Kardashians cough). I also don't care what wedding trends say, there are no feathers in our floral arrangements.
After a bit of a timing issue, our invites arrived.
We had engagement pictures redone because none of them fit with the desired invitations. An engagement shoot was already included in our package, so we took more in a completely different location (Lee Canyon at Mount Charleston, right outside of Las Vegas).
I googled how to assemble them and tackled the task with B. I assembled and stuffed, he sealed, stamped, and put on our address stamp. I printed addresses on sticky labels to expedite the process, but I also picked a pretty cursive font that looks quite close to my hand writing.
Because the invites have already gone out, I can now share the front of them:
This dancing and dip one is my absolute favorite from our (second) engagement shoot.
We've already got some of our reply cards back,
and as a wedding tip to fellow brides, number the back:
This number corresponds with the excel document I have with addresses and wedding information. That way if guests forget to put their names, I can easily see who it is and avoid making awkward phone calls. Plus most guests won't even look at the back of the reply card. #weddinghack
I did take a short cut and not mail my coworkers' invites (because there are ten or so of them that are invited). I did stamp the reply envelope (because that's what Martha Stewart's wedding etiquette post instructed me to do), but we saved a bit by hand delivering those.
He changed his mind from the large painted S's that I stained to a more traditional guest book. He wanted one with pictures (from our second engagement shoot), then seemed surprised when it arrived and had pictures in it. (Oh B!)
He did help pick the design, but only after I narrowed down his choices to my favorite three. We had our guestbook made on Shutterfly and because I had a coupon (I LOVE coupons), the 20 full color paged hard back guest book was under ten dollars. That's half the cost of a generic, picture free one at a craft store. I'll call that another wedding win.
(If you're in need of a wedding photo book, Shutterfly is currently offering a free 8x8 one with the code FREEBOOK4U by 9/18/16. I'd also highly recommend following Shutterfly on Facebook or social media because they have awesome deals like this all the time. I don't think I've paid full price for anything but prints, and even then I was able to snag free shipping or other deals.)
It's here thanks to one of my wonderful bridesmaids. It's got some blue in it (keeping with tradition) but it's also Batman themed. Technically, Batgirl, but still in the Gotham family. I'm super excited!
I booked the wedding suite for the night before (so I can have a bestie sleep over before the girls get ready) and extended our stay for an additional night (because I didn't want to wake up the morning after our wedding and rush to leave). I also booked the men a suite to get ready in (because 8 men were not getting ready at our house, where the animals live.)
Guests, we've got a block of rooms at the Eastside Cannery and Sam's Town with a discounted rate. Please book before 10/10. Locals, please consider taking advantage of this as well because we have an open bar.
My second dress fitting is tomorrow afternoon (after a work planning session in the morning). I need to start wearing my shoes around more to finish breaking them in, but I purposefully went for a low heel for maximum comfort.
This one isn't technically done yet, but our cake tasting is next Sunday afternoon (both our teams have early football games). I'm bringing the cake topper and we're fairly positive we're doing a small cake to cut (and for pictures), then serving assorted cupcakes. Perhaps it's the frosting to cake ratio, but I just like cupcakes more than cake. Plus that way we're able to give a few options...and easily transport home the left overs.
My brother and I selected our song and had the opportunity to practice over Labor Day weekend.
It's choreographed and playful, but not creepy and super romantic because that would be incestuous.
B and I also practiced our first dance.
He refrained from dropping me (but did threaten it). He also has some ideas about what he wants his mother son dance song to be (and it's no longer Tupac...we carefully moved away from that option). No final decisions made there because I'd like him and his mom to talk about it together.
We're ordering groomsmen gifts this weekend. We're supporting a small business by going the Etsy route (as opposed to a store in the mall) and the quality seems higher.
Next Friday some of my maids are coming over to help finalize the wedding favors, help with music selections, assemble props, and help with the wording of the ceremony. Since our dear friend is our officiant, we want our ceremony to be a reflection of us. Will it be serious? Yes. Will it be super religious with scripture readings? No. Will there be silly comments about my inability to put lids all the way back on containers and his love of Madden? Probably. Will there be a Harry Potter reference? Always.
Next month we're applying for a loan (because we can't pay for our wedding in full before it occurs) and getting our marriage license. I did have to clarify to B that yes, he had to be there in person to apply for the marriage license with me (to prove he exists).
I've got another details appointment next week, have music due to the DJ by the 11th of October, and still have to figure out a location for the rehearsal dinner. We got another recommendation of a family owned Mexican restaurant (not a chain) that's close to the venue, so I want to check it out first.
I've had quite a few people ask what I'll do after the wedding with all of my time.
The answer is simple: Enjoy being married and continue to celebrate life and other friends' major milestones. Oh, and take more naps.
Several friends have little babies on the way. Other weddings are on the way. His aunt and uncle's 40th anniversary is on the way. Graduations are on the way.
Life won't end because my wedding is over.